(Rated: P mild)
Loving Healing Press
Published May 2009
Rivalry in families causes stress and breakdown. When a parent loses control of a child and a child is angry and unresponsive, parents get desperate and things get out of hand. Is there a solution?
Dr. Andrew D. Gibson definitely thinks there is an effective one and he's written a book about it. Got An Angry Kid is a self-help 28-step PACT (Parenting Angry Children and Teens) parent survival program. Out of everything I have seen in this field, this is one of the best behavior management programs for families willing to do all they can to help their child and improve their family situation.
What makes this program so good? It can best be summarized by what the author himself states in Chapter One: “This program requires self-discipline in the name of love.” Whose self-discipline? The parents! This program asks parents to change the way they interact with their children. It deals fully and profoundly with the fundamentals of good parenting: No yelling, no threatening, no nagging, no accusing, no name calling, no sarcasm, no arguing, etc. Does any of this sound familiar? Even the best of parents get caught yelling and screaming at their kids in moments of stress.
Dr. Gibson is honest and forthright. He says, “Nobody wants to be dysfunctional, but a lot of us are. Practically no one is spared.” He is never negative, only realistic and hopeful as he continues to say, “Forgiveness is at the heart of banishing dysfunction.”
The book is divided into two parts. The first part is about understanding Spike, a fictional child that represents the difficult child. This section helps the reader understand what makes this child abnormal, the portrait of a dysfunctional family, what psychological experts say about the Spike child and portrays case studies. Because of my professional background, I really liked reading this part, and as a parent it was a good wake-up call. I recognized some tendencies in me that could be changed. Part II is the PACT program explained step by step. A parent could skip some of the info in the first part and go directly to the program, or go back and forth between the two parts. It's an easy book to read with no psychological jargon and a layout that makes it easy to scan when looking for info.
Even if you don't have an angry, problematic child, this program is worth following. It will test your parenting skills, your patience, your love for your child. Is it easy? No. It's hard work, and it takes a lot of effort because, guess what? parenting today is challenging. One of the reasons I'm impressed with this book is because I saw instant results when I followed its advice but also because its advice is Bible-based, whether the author knows it or not. And I believe knowledge based on God's wisdom is the best.
I highly recommend this book for all families, whether you have a difficult child or not. The advice is invaluable and can nip the bud of any problem that creeps up on families as they work on raising their children successfully.
For more information about this book and the PACT program, visit GotAnAngryKid.com.
Disclosure: Thanks to Loving Healing Press and ReviewTheBook.com for sending me this book for review. I was not compensated in any other way, nor told how to rate or review this product.
Thanks for your nice review.ReplyDelete
Parenting today is indeed challenging and books like these can be of great help to exasperated parents (all of us!)
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